I don’t often get serious and in your 2.5 years here on earth I don’t think I’ve ever sat you down to teach you an important life lesson. I think of things daily that I want you to know, lessons that I want to impart to you one day, you know, when the particular subject arises, or whatever. But the last few days something has been nagging me and I just want to get these thoughts written somewhere so that I never, never forget to tell them to you.
The details surrounding what prompted this letter aren’t really what’s important. Long story short, someone died. I didn’t know her. I knew of her, but I didn’t know her thoughts, her hopes for her daughter, or what she prayed for before she went to bed every night, or, heck, if she even prayed. When she died a lot of people said a lot of hateful things. People highlighted the mistakes she had made through her journey here on earth, they hurled insults and cruelness towards someone who wasn’t even breathing anymore.
I can’t be certain what type of man you will turn out to be, Gavin, but know this, my most sincere hope and what I pray for, is that you are never one of those people saying hateful things or hurling insults. I hope that your dad and I are successful in teaching you that no one is perfect. I hope, by example, we show you to never judge another human being until you have walked a mile in their shoes, until you know, in your heart, their struggles. I hope that we teach to be compassionate. It is so easy to criticize others choices. I hope we give you the courage to take the difficult road of love, understanding and empathy.
I hope that when someone leaves this world, whether you knew them or not, that part of your heart is sad; sad, simply because a life was lost. I hope that instead of your mind rushing to judgement, that your heart will rush to compassion for a mother who has to bury her child, regardless of how her child lived.
I have so many, many hopes for you, but the greatest is that you become a man of compassion.
I love you and I will love you forever (even when you are middle aged and even if you make bad choices).